Relationships

I think after talking to my uncle about his relationship and his divorce from my aunt, it has solidified my thoughts about relationships – I mean any sort of relationship.

Trust will always, always be the base of any relationship. Unless you only plan to know the person on the most superficial level, of course. Personally, trust usually comes naturally for me when I first meet a person. I give them a clean slate. Not to say that I would blurt out all my personal information at the first meeting, but I wouldn’t offhandedly think they’re someone I can’t trust. For some you have to work to get that trust. However, it’s one of those things that can easily be broken and will take extremely long to gain back.

There are other factors that play into this too like how long you’ve known this person, how attached you are to them, etc. Those factors make things harder than it should be sometimes. The most saddening part would be knowing that either you or someone you know is letting someone else trample on their trust over and over again. Why do we let others do it? It’s because we keep thinking to ourselves, “Maybe it will change.” Has it? Has it changed for you since the last time they’ve broken your trust for them?

Each time we let someone break it, we try to glue it back. Yet it will never be the same. It not only hurts your relationship with that person, but it also hurts you. Constantly, you’d be wondering when they will hurt you again. You will never be able to let your mind rest. Whether you’re suspicious of someone cheating or you’re scared a friend is going to back stab you, it will start to affect your body, mind, and spirit. How could you live a happy life with someone like that?

One of the things I learned and I always try keep in mind, is to learn to let go. I don’t mean the memories, but the person. It seems cold sometimes because if I don’t like someone, they will completely drop from my life. I will not approach them to make small talk, if they talk to me I’ll be civil and answer. If I had a deeper relationship I would need time, but ultimately, they will just be another face.

The reason why I tell myself to learn to let go is because I think deep down, the other person will never change. Either it’s who they are (it’s inherent) or it’s how they’re raised. The person was probably taught from a young age to be who they are now and so it will stay with them forever. Placing your hopes on them to change just means you’re asking to get hurt. And I’m not talking about smaller things like someone trying to quit smoking or whatever. If a person doesn’t treat you with respect, no matter what they tell you, they will probably keep on treating you the way they do.

My aunt and my uncle argued all the time when they were dating. The subject of breaking up was brought up countless times, but it never happened. There was a bigger, more important, reason as to why my uncle never broke up with her and even married her, but that’s too personal for me to reveal on a public post. The main point though is that the arguing never stopped even after they married and before they knew it 10+ years passed by and nothing changed. Things just got more difficult after they had kids and they had to take into account what’s best for the kids too. Stay together or break apart?

I’m glad that after some events that unraveled though, they finally took the initiative to break apart. It’s what they should’ve done since their dating period. The sentence that set it all off finally was when she said “Why did you drag me along with you for 10+ years?” Although I truly don’t believe it’s his fault, the sentence affected him a lot. That’s what others should be thinking though. Is this relationship worth it down the road? If not why keep it going for so long? What do you think is going to happen 10 years down the road? Let me tell you, it’s not going to be much different if your trust has already been shattered one too many times.

So whether it’s a boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband or friend, you have to realize that even if you love that person to death and want to make things work, you have to see things more clearly. Is your relationship really benefiting the both of you? After your talks with each other when you tell each other what’s going on and you hope for the change in the other person, have they really been making an effort to change? Or do they just end up doing the same thing anyway?

Too many times I had to find out that my close friend was telling the biggest bullshits ever. Too many times I find myself getting backstabbed. Have you reached the point where even a sorry can’t save them anymore because somewhere soon down the road they will do the same thing yet again? Don’t let it reach 10 years before you realize how toxic someone is to your life and wake up.. There will definitely be a better person out there that wants to walk into your life if you would only open up that door to them. A person that treats you like crap is always replaceable no matter how important you may think they are..

Benefit Dandelion Review

Since I have some free time in the mornings while I’m staying in Vancouver, I thought I would review some of the older products I’ve bought. I’ve actually had these for a while and I didn’t feel like reviewing them because they’re Western brands. There are usually a lot of reviews on them already, but then I thought.. meh why not LOL. It’ll help me keep track of the items I’ve bought.


Fake awake with Dandelion - Benefit's ballerina-pink pressed highlighting powder. Just one stroke of Dandelion takes your complexion from dull to radiant in an instant. It's shimmery, satiny, radiant, perk-me-up finish is guaranteed to make them wonder ..."How do you look so pretty at eight in the morning?"



You can tell mine is old because they redesigned the box that holds the blush haha ><. It says that it's a highlighting powder, but I just simply used it as a blush. I was roaming around Shoppers Drug Mart and was floating around the Benefit section. The old SDM near me only had a tiny little set up for it and every time I walked past I would check out the items. So it was a totally random buy LOL. I thought the packaging was cool because it came housed in a box instead of a case. I didn't even test it out @_@. Dandelion is actually quite light so it probably won't show on darker skin tones. I'm not pale, but I think I'm light coloured too and I still have to do a couple swipes in order for the colour to show up. Despite that, I still quite enjoy using it. It's light so when I'm going for a really natural look, it fits right in. People that were hoping for a little more pigment though would probably not like it much. It's also a bit shimmery since it's a highlighting powder. I don't really like their brush much because I feel like it's a bit stiff. On their site it says that people in Asia like to use their brush to brush on face mask after they're done with the mask! I want to try that after haha! ★★★★☆ -- 4/5 ~

Hi Neighbour Boy!

In Vancouver it’s very common that a big house, like a mansion, would have its rooms rented out. While I’m in Vancouver, my uncle gave me his unit in the place he owns. The top floor of his place is, I think, almost equivalent in sq ft to my actual home. Since he doesn’t need that much room to himself and since he’s never really at this place he gave the whole top floor to us last time.

While we were there last time though, he was already in the process of having the place renovated so that the top floor would be divided into two units since he won’t be using it much. There were originally, I think 3 bedrooms I think. Three bedrooms, one bathroom (has two sinks), two living rooms, a big kitchen. He added two more rooms in and another bathroom and so the other unit has three bedrooms and he kept two to himself.

Beside us now are three students that attend SFU (Simon Fraser University). Two girls and one guy. Actually, there’s lots of SFU students at this place since it’s pretty close – 15 mins drive? I never saw them… until today.. LOL.

I was sleeping and I heard the doorbell ring but I didn’t get up because my uncle still has his set of keys. I then remembered that last night I sent him a text saying we need more water bottles, maybe a box of iced tea, and some ziploc bags. I thought maybe he had his hands full and then I heard a knock and the doorbell again. I went to open our unit’s door a little and saw the main entrance was opened so my thought was that maybe he gave up waiting for me and just opened the door by himself. I opened the door wider. Keep in mind I just woke up so I’m like in my PJs, had bed head, and my eyes were literally like -_o because I couldn’t open both eyes since they’re so tired HAHA. I looked down to see the neighbour boy looking back up at me right at that same moment because he heard me open my door. I saw him and was like O_O ……………..-quickly close door-

LOL!! So embarrassing I swear =_=. Of all the times I could’ve met the people living beside us, I had to meet them then. I was telling Alan how I’ll never open the door again and that whatever happens, my uncle can open the door himself =_=.

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